# Untaught strength: The drive to do the impossible | Dr. Cathryn Litvack Dhanatya | TEDxInglewood

Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZL-hfCfsZMA
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## Quick Overview

Dr. Cathryn Dhanatya successfully navigated a high-risk pregnancy involving twins, delivering them safely by employing three key strategies: becoming a pragmatic optimist, finding a strong support community, and prioritizing love over fear, which allowed her to overcome the seemingly impossible odds presented by her medical situation.

**Key Points:**
- Dr. Dhanatya endured 75 days of labor contractions and a hospital stay where her cervix was dangerously shortening, ultimately leading to the delivery of her twins.
- The first strategy for success is to 'Become a Pragmatic Optimist,' which involves learning to reclaim and harness untaught strength beyond books.
- The second strategy involves finding your 'people'—a supportive community whose love and encouragement helped her manage the difficult situation, including her husband who was always ready to stay extra time during visits.
- The third strategy is to 'Let your love be greater than your fear,' acknowledging that while her doctor warned of risks like miscarriage or termination, her love for the babies was greater than her fear.
- The speaker found humor in the irony of her obstetrician's advice to 'box breathe' during contractions, as she was already struggling with a fear of her cervix shortening.
- The ultrasound finding out she had healthy twins occurred in July 2012, and the picture showing the decorated hospital room is from February 2013.
- The speaker credits her community and the decision to prioritize love over fear for helping her and her children survive and thrive despite the overwhelming medical challenges.

![Screenshot at 09:29: The slide displaying the second key point, '2. FIND YOUR PEOPLE,' juxtaposes a photo of the speaker with Santa Claus during a Christmas Eve 2012 hospital visit and a photo of her decorated hospital room from February 2013, illustrating the vital support system she built during her challenging pregnancy.](https://ss.rapidrecap.app/screens/ZL-hfCfsZMA/00-09-29.png)

**Context:** Dr. Cathryn Dhanatya shares a deeply personal story about her high-risk pregnancy involving twins, detailing the intense physical and emotional challenges she faced while hospitalized for an extended period, including 75 days of contractions. The talk focuses on the mental and community strategies she used to navigate this crisis, drawing parallels between her medical ordeal and the need for an innate strength and optimism in everyday life.

## Detailed Analysis

Dr. Cathryn Dhanatya recounts her harrowing experience of being in labor for 75 days due to a shortening cervix, facing the possibility of losing her twins. She structures her survival narrative around three actionable steps. First, she advocates for becoming a 'pragmatic optimist' by cultivating an untaught strength beyond academic knowledge, enabling one to operate effectively even when facing dire circumstances, such as being told that if you don't breathe, you will die. Second, she emphasizes the importance of finding your 'people'—a supportive community that provides encouragement, citing how her husband and family decorated her hospital room and offered unwavering support, even offering small kindnesses like staying a few extra minutes during visits. Third, she stresses that 'love must be greater than your fear,' noting that despite facing grim prognoses, including potential miscarriage or termination, her love for the twins propelled her forward. Her journey, rooted in both love and fear, ultimately resulted in the survival and thriving of her children, R&J, born in February 2013, demonstrating that inner strength and community support are crucial for overcoming overwhelming adversity.

### Introduction and Initial Crisis

- Speaker details being in labor for 75 days with a shortening cervix
- Husband's reaction to the doctor's warning of dire outcomes
- Speaker felt fear and anxiety but chose to believe success was possible.

### Strategy 1

- Become a Pragmatic Optimist: This requires finding an untaught strength beyond books and operationalizing aspirations
- Cites the irony of her doctor advising her to 'box breathe' when she was already terrified.

### Strategy 2

- Find Your People: Highlights the importance of a supportive community, including her husband and family, who provided constant encouragement and decorated her room
- Notes that love and encouragement provide the energy to move forward.

### Strategy 3

- Let Your Love Be Greater Than Your Fear: Discusses the internal battle between fear (miscarriage, dying) and the love for her unborn twins
- Cites her original due date (April 1st) versus the actual birth date (February 14th) as an example of defying expectations.

### Conclusion and Outcome

- The twins, R&J, were born on February 14th, 2013, and survived and thrived
- Concludes that biology programs us for survival, but conscious effort (pragmatic optimism and love) is needed to operate beyond that basic programming.

![Screenshot at 00:04: Opening title slide for TEDxInglewood ENERGY event, setting a theme of energy and innovation.](https://ss.rapidrecap.app/screens/ZL-hfCfsZMA/00-00-04.png)
![Screenshot at 00:08: Dr. Cathryn Dhanatya is introduced on stage with her name prominently displayed against a red/purple backdrop.](https://ss.rapidrecap.app/screens/ZL-hfCfsZMA/00-00-08.png)
![Screenshot at 00:26: Dr. Dhanatya begins her breathing exercise demonstration to illustrate the stress of her situation.](https://ss.rapidrecap.app/screens/ZL-hfCfsZMA/00-00-26.png)
![Screenshot at 01:03: Speaker recounts the 75 days of contractions she endured while hospitalized.](https://ss.rapidrecap.app/screens/ZL-hfCfsZMA/00-01-03.png)
![Screenshot at 01:48: Speaker begins describing the difficult environment of the hospital room, lined with faded black and white holiday cards.](https://ss.rapidrecap.app/screens/ZL-hfCfsZMA/00-01-48.png)
![Screenshot at 02:11: Speaker describes the cold feeling when her doctor confirmed her cervical shortening.](https://ss.rapidrecap.app/screens/ZL-hfCfsZMA/00-02-11.png)
![Screenshot at 02:39: Speaker pauses and clasps her hands, reflecting on the gravity of the situation.](https://ss.rapidrecap.app/screens/ZL-hfCfsZMA/00-02-39.png)
![Screenshot at 03:40: Speaker discusses the constant fear and anxiety she felt during the pregnancy.](https://ss.rapidrecap.app/screens/ZL-hfCfsZMA/00-03-40.png)
![Screenshot at 04:12: Slide displays the first key point: '1. BECOME A PRAGMATIC OPTIMIST' overlaid on a photo of the speaker in the hospital.](https://ss.rapidrecap.app/screens/ZL-hfCfsZMA/00-04-12.png)
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